Day 142: People Pleasers

The high capacity women are the ones most often duped into becoming people pleasers.

So if you identify as one, you’re in great company.

Cool: we have a club but like how do we get out of it? #askingforafriend

People pleasing is *just* like scope creep! They should call it people creep instead of people pleasing.

Because pleasing people insinuates that you are thoughtful, caring and helpful.

That is not how people pleasers feel.

Once they realize they’ve become the default they realize they are being taken advantage of.

She wonders how long it’s been happening.

Which other relationships are like this? Or will become like this?

How can she be so independent, strong willed, far along in her career and not see how bad it got?

Is there any way to stop it?

There is.

It’s equal parts boundaries and self confidence.

Just like how it took time and repeated action to become a people pleaser, it’s going to take time and repeated action to get out of that club.

I’ll be talking about this more and hope you take solace in knowing you’re not alone! People creepers unite!