Day 150: 40 Over 40
Last night was amazing! Elle did such a great job with the event. Thoughtful touches like name badges (but cute lil magnetic ones with a pretty font), gift bags including a crystal and chocolate (btw: always have chocolate in your gift bags), live musician, gluten free platter, and beautifully decorated tables.
Carin and I mostly kept to ourselves. I was able to connect with the woman who I set out to. There was also a person who I follow on IG that I meant to say hi to but I saw her at the end of the event and at that point was ready to go.
There was only shade from one person but that’s been her vibe since I’ve met her so I didn’t take it personally. Her and I are both very similar in the work we are doing here. On paper she is way more successful so I’m not sure why the shade but it is what it is.
It reminds me of a post I sent to my sister a couple days ago. It was a kitten with a scrunched up nose with the text, “Met someone just like me. Ew, didn’t like her.”.
While I wish it were Kumbaya for all the girls, especially the ones leading memberships, I get that it’s ingrained in us from an early age that we are supposed to fight other women for the very limited space.
A podcast interview by Amy Porterfield of Vivian Tu (Your Rich BFF) that I listened to this week explained the phenomena of women wanting other women to exceed, but not too much. Because of the scarcity mindset that there are limited spots available. I’ve heard this theory before, but they expressed it in such a humble and real way that I recommend you listen to it.
I get the fear that this other person feels because of her competitive nature. It’s unwarranted though because her and I are appealing to a completely different subset of women. She doesn’t see that. Either because she doesn’t have a decade of experience building memberships, her current life situation, or she likes to build from animosity. I tried that once, it didn’t work out well.
What I want to impart on you is what I said to my client yesterday about how his teachings could disrupt an entire profession (I told him to save the presentation on a USB for me in case he goes missing). He laughed and said I was paranoid. My response, the same I always say, when people tell me I’m paranoid is “Just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they aren’t out to get you.”.
People may dislike you. They may try to manipulate other people’s opinion of you. And that's fine. Don’t take it to heart.
Keep building your empire. Their dislike of you may cause a blip on your radar, but in the grand scheme of things, it wont matter.
With all of this said, by no means do I want to take away from the beautiful and amazing experience that Elle curated from start to finish. Her yearlong campaign of finding and highlighting 40 women over the age of 40 in the DMV was awe inspiring. You could see from her IG posts, engagement with the participants, and the attention to detail last night that this meant so much to her. All of the passion and calling culminated in her speech where she expressed why this meant so much to her (her kids literally went up and hugged her while she spoke: they know, the kids just know when we need them).
The way she honored, spotlighted, and encouraged us was nothing short of BFF behavior. What a wonderful thing to be a part of!
Carin and I recorded next Tuesday’s episode earlier today all about the experience and I’m interviewing Elle next week. Can’t wait to share with you!
