Day 15:

Am I at peace or am I completely forgetting something?

I’ve heard that from a couple people at different times over the past 24 hours.

If you haven’t recognized and named it before, it’s a very common thing to do once a transition starts to grow roots.

There is so much chaos, unknowing, fear or anticipation that naturally happens before each transition.

Then the transition happens and you start to think “yep, this is as hard as I thought it would be.” or you think “weird…I thought this would be much different.”. Or, maybe you don’t give it any thought because you’re just being in this newfound situation.

Last night after watching the documentary Satisfied (highly recommend, it was SO good) our group headed to a restaurant for drinks (fried pickles for me…prob not gf but if i’m not drinking, I’m at least going to eat something fried).

After we talked about the viewing we started to chat about life.

My long time biz buddy said something along the lines of “everything feels easy right now. It’s making me uneasy. I keep thinking I’m missing something. There’s someone who needs something.”. She then shared that at a parenting group the topic came up about what people were focusing on and she said “I’m focusing on me. My kids are alright.”

After rehashing with her husband, she again felt uneasy. Even though he was like (paraphrasing with what Ryan would say): “Yea babe, you do you. The kids are fine. Focus on something that would make you feel good.”

Although I knew what she was going through, I kept quiet until the opportunity to interject happened.

I excitedly blurted out, “I know EXACTLY what is happening.”.

And then went on a tirade about how we are in the sweet spot. The kids are back to school. There’s some semblance of a routine but it can be unsettling because our humans aren’t around us all the time.

I very feverishly told her NOT to squander this time. “The storm is coming. The holidays will be here soon. Don’t spend another minute doubting the present moment and just ENJOY it.”.

Isn’t it so common that when things are going well we start to think “this cant be right.”. If I allow myself to revel in this experience, something bad is going to happen. What’s the point of immersing myself in the feel goods when I know it will end.

Knock it off!

Just enjoy it. Seriously. Do you think when things are super chaotic and shit is hitting the fan that we aren’t fully immersed in that? We are. So give yourself the experience of being fully immersed in the good stuff too!

This subject also came up in today’s monthly coaching/consulting call for the Success Secret Society. We have a member who has gained a ton of clarity in her business because of trial and error. She now has a system for success based on who has been hiring her. She’s niched down and knows exactly who she is serving. So naturally other parts of her life are drumming up chaos.

Carin and I guided her not to buy into it. We explained what was happening and how it is natural when pushing up against your upper limit, that your brain tries to keep you safe by remaining in your old identity.

It’s a mind screw, isnt it? But once you recognize it, you can spot it quicker the next time.

If things are going well for you, embrace it!

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