Day 93: Adult Friendships

I sent a talk to text message to my friend on the drive to get my repaired tire repaired again.

“I’m in the car for the next 40 minutes but wanted to tell you about an amazing opportunity for a photo shoot with a full glam session. It’s for a 40 over 40 feature. Give me a call if you can.”

She called within in a few minutes.

This is one of my friends who I’ve spoken to probably twice in the past year. Via IG messenger.

She’s been going through some shit.

I wasn’t there for her like I probably should have been. But she was going through her shit and it looked like she was being supported by her friends that were within close proximity. So I didn’t feel guilty.

We got right into talking about the photo session. She said she was really into it. I knew she would be. With her life transitions and how she’s been showing up online lately I knew this opportunity would be perfect for her.

Plus I thought she would be a fun date to go to the gala with.

She went to a charity gala with me a couple years back and we had a blast. I think that was the last time we had hung out IRL.

Don’t you love friendships like that though? The ones that pick right up at the drop of a dime.

Her and I were coworkers at the employer where I was pregnant with both boys. She was the only one I would let touch my stomach. She knew my oldest was a boy although I was CERTAIN he was a girl. She kept saying, “You’ll find out”. She was right. I was wrong. Whatever.

If I’m mathing right that means her and I have been friends for close to 20 years. Was she there when I started? I was there for a year before I got pregnant I think. It’s all a blur. Regardless, she’s one of my people. And I hope she thinks I’m one of her people. Based on our call, I think she does know that.

Friendships are weird. Especially adult friendships. Ones that started before kids.

I’m glad we had an excuse to reconnect and I hope it works out where we get to go to the 40 over 40 gala together. She’s a special woman and has had to carry so much more than most. Her 40th year should be celebrated with a special feature.