Day 38: Life and Business Partners

Carin and I had a great meeting about the future of the podcast and our society. We were both thinking similar thoughts about certain topics and have a good jumping off point.

How often in relationships does it happen where two people are thinking the same thing but neither wants to bring it up for fear that they’re the only ones thinking about it?

I know it has happened in all of my close relationships. The fear of having a real conversation that could unearth something that would be better off buried.

With business partnerships I think it’s easier because the overall goal is the same. How can you best serve your clients?

Of course there’s a lot that leads up to that. How do you attract an audience and convert them into becoming clients? How much time, energy, and money are you willing to spend to reach the ideal clients?

But ultimately, a business is about positively impacting your clients lives.

Marriage is different. Ryan and I have been together since 1999. It’s quite mind blowing to wrap my head around.

If you asked me when we met what our goals were for 25 years later I would have laughed. I had no concept of designing or building something. Life back then was about the day-to-day. A couple months ago in a drunken stupor I realized, and told him, that the reason I’ve stuck with him is because he has never bored me. With other guys … they all seemed the same. Surface level shit. No real depth. Or strength. Or true leadership. Ryan is all of that.

He and I have legit built a life together. We’ve been together for more than half of our lives. And it all just kind of happened by waking up each day being like, “this guys cool, I’m happy.”.

It’s always felt like we were on the same team. Especially with parenting.

During the pandemic I would think about how many people would get divorced because of conflicting views of how to handle the kids.

We were on the same page. I think we always have been. Not just about how we raise the kids but most things in general.

Sure he gives me shit about woo-woo stuff and I’ve probably been a jerk about how much time can anyone really spend watching sci-fi and sports stuff.

But when it comes to the big things, we are good with each other. We don’t have a lot of conversations. We are both internal processors.

Which is how I think Carin and I are too. Building this business and coming to the table with beliefs on things that need to be changed is good. I’m happy.

Both Ryan and Carin are good for me. They have strengths and abilities that I don’t. And I know they value my vision on things.

Being a loner with such strong partners is fascinating. You can build such beautiful things together… but also need that alone time to process and dig in so you know what matters.